My life turned from great to awful and back to good

Posted by tmmmrlts @tmmmrlts, Mar 1, 2020

My name is Melissa and I was a caregiver for my husband until he passed away 6/14/19. Since he passed, I was a mess for the first few months. I was just mad at the world and I wrecked my car and that made me feel like crap, it was one of the 2 cars that he had put together. I was always trying to do stuff to stay away from people.

Then a switch happened i started going to grief meetings,and started going to church, got saved and baptized I started back to school to get my diploma, I graduate in May. My children thought I wasn't grieving. But now they are proud of me for doing what I always encouraged them to do.

I will always love and miss my husband. But when you realize you have to do what is best for you. Then you can start a different life and make it better for yourself. It's not easy but if I can do it so can you.Thank you to all the wonderful people on here for keeping me strong. I graduate May 29th 2020 from the mers goodwill excel center.

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@becsbuddy

@tmmmrlts I am so excited for you! This is going to be difficult but so rewarding! I was an ‘older’ student when I went back to school for my nursing degree. I am so glad I did it! You might consider respiratory therapy over physical therapy. You could help many more people without having to lift anyone! It can be exhausting.
And, remember, you have lots of “moms” watching over you!!

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Merry, Volunteer Mentor @merpreb Thank you I don't know which one yet. I still have to get approved for everything. Thank you all for being here for me.

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@becsbuddy I didnt think I would make it this for. Thank you for the advice. I'm still checking stuff out. I am glad I'm done with my diploma now off to bigger things.

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@merpreb

@tmmmrlts- I'm so happy for you! I love your goals, and also that you are taking your time and being cautious. I had no idea that you were on oxygen. May I ask, why you are on oxygen?

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I had fell on dec 13 and hurt my ribs and I just kept going and pneumonia set in and I went to the hospital my oxygen was at 76 I found out I had pneumonia in both lungs. And they put me on it I'm still working on getting off it. I will be fine either way. Thanks for asking

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@merpreb

@tmmmrlts- Melissa, yes this is the perfect place to tell your story. You are doing so remarkably well after such a long journey with your husband and his lung cancer. I can't imagine how you felt after losing him. I'm sure that it was devastating to watch. I know that a lot of people on here can empathize and support you for your strength and your fortitude. When you have bad moments now how are you handling them?

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Just letting everyone know I'm still here and doing ok.. Donget me wrong I still have days that I want to just give up,, but i have so much to live for.. Since I last posted i have earned my high school diploma, I have also started college. I am in my third semester, right now I am getting the basics out of the way and then going to transfer to a college that has a respiratory therapy program. Just letting you know that I am doing better it will be 2 years in June. I am keeping myself busy with school, church and grandchildren and have 2 more on the way one in June and the other in September.

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@tmmmrlts

Just letting everyone know I'm still here and doing ok.. Donget me wrong I still have days that I want to just give up,, but i have so much to live for.. Since I last posted i have earned my high school diploma, I have also started college. I am in my third semester, right now I am getting the basics out of the way and then going to transfer to a college that has a respiratory therapy program. Just letting you know that I am doing better it will be 2 years in June. I am keeping myself busy with school, church and grandchildren and have 2 more on the way one in June and the other in September.

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@tmmmrlts Thank you for the update. You have accomplished a lot and you have a lot to be proud of.

@colleenyoung @merpreb @becsbuddy @johnbishop @gingerw

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@tmmmrlts

Just letting everyone know I'm still here and doing ok.. Donget me wrong I still have days that I want to just give up,, but i have so much to live for.. Since I last posted i have earned my high school diploma, I have also started college. I am in my third semester, right now I am getting the basics out of the way and then going to transfer to a college that has a respiratory therapy program. Just letting you know that I am doing better it will be 2 years in June. I am keeping myself busy with school, church and grandchildren and have 2 more on the way one in June and the other in September.

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@tmmmrlts The positivity in your post makes me positively giddy to hear! You have had quite a bumpy road, well-traveled, and found your way around some of the worst bumps! Looking back now, what advice would you have given yourself two years ago?
Ginger

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@tmmmrlts

Just letting everyone know I'm still here and doing ok.. Donget me wrong I still have days that I want to just give up,, but i have so much to live for.. Since I last posted i have earned my high school diploma, I have also started college. I am in my third semester, right now I am getting the basics out of the way and then going to transfer to a college that has a respiratory therapy program. Just letting you know that I am doing better it will be 2 years in June. I am keeping myself busy with school, church and grandchildren and have 2 more on the way one in June and the other in September.

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@tmmmrlts- Hello, my friend. You are already up to your 3rd semester? Good for you. It sounds like you have a pretty busy life now, especially with 2 more grandkids on the way. I'm so happy to hear from you! xxoo

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@merpreb

@tmmmrlts- Hello, my friend. You are already up to your 3rd semester? Good for you. It sounds like you have a pretty busy life now, especially with 2 more grandkids on the way. I'm so happy to hear from you! xxoo

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I am also looking for a good school or program for respiratory therapy. Thank you i read on here but I haven't posted in a while so I figured I would touch base. Xoxo praying for all the people on here.

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@tmmmrlts

Just letting everyone know I'm still here and doing ok.. Donget me wrong I still have days that I want to just give up,, but i have so much to live for.. Since I last posted i have earned my high school diploma, I have also started college. I am in my third semester, right now I am getting the basics out of the way and then going to transfer to a college that has a respiratory therapy program. Just letting you know that I am doing better it will be 2 years in June. I am keeping myself busy with school, church and grandchildren and have 2 more on the way one in June and the other in September.

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@tmmmrlts Im so happy for you! You are a real inspiration to all those who will follow you!

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@becsbuddy

@tmmmrlts Im so happy for you! You are a real inspiration to all those who will follow you!

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Thank you I really appreciate your kind words.

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