IV Colorectal Cancer Patients - Questions from a caregiver

Thank you Colleen for mentioning my name. I was traveling and was just back to U.S. I would like to share with the patients and their immediate family members who is suffering colorectal cancer. My Mom had a colorectal cancel when she was diagnosed according to her endocrinology report in January, 2016. She is 77 years old. Her bowel movement was not good and she had direa came out with blood every times she went. My Mom is so afraid of operations. She did not want to do the operations. I could not take her here since she lives in Thailand. I checked with Mayo clinic website and found out the Thai Surgeon who came to practice in Minnasota Mayo clinic for a few years, With that connection, I was able to discuss with the doctor and took my Mom for the surgery in March. My Mom was staying at the hospital for 13 nights. It was a successful surgery. My Mom is back home and she is doing fine. My Mom is now very careful with what she eats. There is always way to treat this colorectal cancel. The sooner you know the better to approach the ways of treatment. You just need to be patience and always keep positive no matters what happen or you are in the worst scenario. I have been grateful to Mayo clinic, the Thai surgeon who came to practice at Mayo clinic.

Hi @bbams, Just checking in. How are you and your husband doing?

Hello, my mom was diagnosed with stage 3c colon cancer last month and had a resection with ileostomy...the doctor said that adjuvant chemo will be given but before that we did another chest and abdomen scan that shows 4 hypodense lesions in the liver...she has had her first cycle of chemo and came home yesterday.. She hasn't been sleeping very well...she is a very strong woman and even now when she is going through the toughest time in her life she acts strong infront of me and my sisters because she is an only parent and does not want us to get worried but what i am worried about is her...i want her to talk to someone, to cry and disscuss what she is feeling..what else can i do for her??

Hello @bush Nice to e-meet you here. I am Scott and I was the primary caregiver for my wife who battled brain cancer for 14 years. I am sorry to hear about your mom's diagnosis.

I am not any kind of medical professional, so this comes solely from my experiences with my wife.

Step by step, my wife lost her independence due to her disease. The one thing she could continue to have any semblance of control over was her communications, visits, etc. I realized very early on the best thing I could do was listen. I understand your desire to have her talk with someone, but in my wife's case she did not want to until she was ready. Then it was only with certain people and for and at certain times. In her case it came down to one nurse and only one of her four siblings.

I am not saying this is right, all I am saying is this is what brought her comfort and come peace.

Just my two cents plain.

I send courage and strength to you all!

@IndianaScott yeah i totally get that...one of my mom's friends had cancer, got cured then had a recurrence but is cancer free now...she is out of the country at the moment so im hoping once she is back my mom can talk to her....till then we are trying to be as helpful as possible but everytime we visit the oncologist, we get to hear another bad news