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Stigma & Mental Illness~~Speak Up
By Roxie43
December 5, 2011 at 4:00 am
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Albeit shameful and ignorant that it is almost 2012, and many of us are still confronted with biases. judgements and disparate treatment, I encourage all to hold your head up high. I know what it's like to be looked at differently because of a label, diagnosis or even someones inability to look deeper than the surface.
I often ask myself why some folks behave the way they behave and perhaps I will never find an honest answer. I hypothesize that perhaps there is something in me that may remind someone of themselves or that perhaps that, until recently, I had always functioned so well that those with certain belief systems or stereo-types feel that they are experts on who I am.
I recently posted on ECT and the benefits for me as an individual. Talk therapy is also important because it allows us to process, in a safe and healthy forum, the things that people have said or done to us. I recall when I first requested FMLA at work and a person made the comment "If you cannot report to work maybe you should not work". I was requesting intermittent leave because the stigma and disparate treatment was taking it's toll and this so called healthy individual was so insensitive.
I know we have come a long way but we still have a long way to go. Stigma is one reason some don't admit that something ails them nor seek help. We all have to use our voices, our stories, our expertise (on who were are) and continue to raise awareness about the importance of treating others the way in which one would like to be treated, not selective respect and equality but across the board.
Being good to one another should not be based on pre-conceived notions that certain populations are more worthy than others. We are valuable individuals with strengths, creativity, feelings and we contribute to society wholeheartedly and should always be viewed and treated as such!
Have you been treated differently lately? How did you deal with it?
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Roxie43 May 17 at 8:16 pm0 Likes
MAY is Mental Health Awareness Month in the US. Please, no matter where you are from, continue to educate your friends, peers and community about the importance of learning how mental illness impacts lives and dispel any myths. Stigma continues to hurt innocent people that did not choose to have an illness. It is not our fault and the more we educate other's including ourselves the better our world will become.
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Roxie43 November 3 at 11:39 am0 Likes
Please do not allow others internal feelings about themselves make you less inferior. We are good human beings and that's the part of us that should be focused on…
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Anonymous July 30 at 6:08 pm2 LikesMental illness comes in many forms . It is rampant in our society. If more people sought help for issues, different things could be avoided. It is a shame that employers get concerned with past treatments. After all, patients who have chronic mental illness/even chronic minor mental illness need help & ongoing medication (most in order to function appropriately). Hollywood has been doing a better job with this: "It's Kind of a Funny Story", "A Beautiful Mind", "Black Swan" and others. What a pity that mental illnesses are ridiculed or stigmatized! Even the healthiest individual(or whom may think that she/he has a healthy mind) may have a personality disorder (innate). If we are more accepting of our differences as people, we can only then learn to love one another and truly respect one another. Mental illness should be looked upon as a gift and not as a curse, although it may feel like a curse at times (or for some, all the time).
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Roxie43 September 13 at 1:21 pm0 Likes
Some employers are in treatment themselves and/or denial. Let's be proud that just like any illness that needs treatment we are bold and strong enough to get it…
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LittleDreamer September 2 at 12:04 pm1 Like
I like your aditude. Since we have experienced mental illness we will be able to help others understand it or deal with it.
Mental illness can also be quite difficult though.] It's like cancer, except people with cancer can hope to be cured. Mental illness is something one must live with our whole lives. -
Roxie43 September 13 at 1:20 pm0 Likes
And, we can live, be productive, be happy and do whatever we put our minds to. For some, that are ignorant, they define others by a diagnosis. I define myself by who I am and it is not depression nor PTSD…
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China August 9 at 2:38 pm0 Likes
wow u r so on point. hollywood is more accepting than health care how sad
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Roxie43 August 5 at 7:31 pm0 Likes
Thank you so much for your post. I agree with you wholeheartedly. As a consumer and a professional I feel that it is a gift that I can genuinely empathize with indivuals living with mental illness. I am not ashamed but it is so hurtful when others are ashamed of me… This is when it feels like a curse but the ones that are hurting others are the ones with deeper issues than me.
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Roxie43 July 15 at 3:32 pm0 Likes
http://bullyinworkplace.wordpress.com/2012/07...
Story of human cruelty
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piglit July 15 at 3:45 pm1 Like
speaking of stigma I saw Mark again the other day and he is doing quite well. Although he doesn't seem to recognize me or would rather not by feeling embarrased. He and I still have the gentle smile that will always connect us as total strangers being able to communicate. He remains in my prayers and always will
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Roxie43 July 15 at 3:55 pm0 Likes
That's beautiful Piglit. He remembers because you were kind.
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Roxie43 July 5 at 11:31 am0 Likes
http://bullyinworkplace.wordpress.com/2012/07...
The more you know the better equipped you are to deal with stigma and indifference.
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China July 3 at 1:28 pm0 Likes
We will always be treated different no matter how good we r as a people. I just keep it real. Respect is earned n not a right so if peeps cant treat me the way I deserve my back is turned
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Roxie43 July 22 at 11:15 pm0 Likes
We cannot be inactive and impact + change if we don't say "Thats Wrong!!!!".
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jsparks June 22 at 9:31 pm1 Like
Well after work injury healed enough for me to return to work I was let go because "my position had been filled" or was it the doctor said I had PTSD and was off work for a couple months dealing with that and the neck injury… Well It was 2 days ago I see they have a add out for a Diesel Mechanic with my same back ground, and for my same job… the worst part is they must be really hurting for someone because it also has more money offered… I know people with mental illness can be high matience at times, but really they never even asked me how I was effected they just write me off as ruined, but I really think they couldn't have been more wrong, I just don't know if I should pursue it, I don't care about the job anymore but now that I have proof my discharge was due to discrimination I almost feel obligated to do something to stop it from happening to someone else.. What do you think? Could it make a difference if they got punished or is that going to make it harder on the stigma, make people more scared?? Everyone has issues, to tall, too ugly, squeaky voice, hard of hearing… but they have to focus on the issues they can't see or hear?? Thats what upsets me. I was never "normal" before, and hell I am glad, because normal people scare the crap outta me hahaha. Well I think I am better off wearing a shirt that says mentally disturbed so don't disturb me, that way if they got a problem with something they don't even know about, or fear they may catch it then I really don't wanna waste my time.
We are who we are, learn to love yourself as I am learning and trying to do daily,
and I will end with this very amusing quote"I am not much, but I am all I ever think about"
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piglit June 23 at 12:51 am0 Likes
Hi J as you know the work situation is maybe not such a good move for you to go back because of all the memories, but you know this already and we have talked about it. I think that the way they have made you feel is the issue at hand and I can so fully understand that. If it was discrimination take the action if you feel it would make you feel better but do this through the lawyers and dr re your case. They will help I'm sure. I think that voices do need to be heard but if its' going to effect you don't go down that path, youv'e been through enough. Also I don't think that any of us can really give a definition for normal. I've been searching for years, haven't found it yet. Your words are really moving to me Never forget how important and special that you are to your family, your beautiful son who adores you and your friends like me who care. Always here for you Piglit
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Roxie43 June 22 at 11:31 am0 Likes
I wish more people had the courage to say out loud "THAT IS NOT OKAY" when they are stigmatized…
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Roxie43 June 15, 2012 at 2:06 pm0 Likes
Hi Dear,
I didn't get rid of anyone. God works in mysterious ways.
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piglit June 15, 2012 at 3:58 am0 Likes
cyber bullying is so out there and the bullies on here are really so dangerous. They play with the minds of the people that they are bullying. I have seen the effects that this has on people that this has occured and it is so overwhelming for them. Scarey to think they can't even turn on there computers without the low life's getting to them. It induces a fear for the people being abused to turn the computers on for the fear of more abuse. Thanks for the video Rox everyone should watch, Take care Piglit
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piglit May 29, 2012 at 12:15 am1 Like
Hi my dear friends many of you will remember my story of Mark. I saw him again today and he is doing so well and trying so hard. I don;t know if he remembers me or not. But everytime i see him i say hello and i giive him a warm smile and he returns one back to me. I feel as if i did make a difference even if it was a little one. I hope i did anyway
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LittleDreamer May 26, 2012 at 9:08 am3 Likes
I am in a very good mood and have been trying to brainstorm ways to raise awareness on mental illnesses. I know someone who works for NAMI, I guess I could talk to her maybe. I'm also going to the library with my mom and sister so I'll probably check out a few books for ideas. I think it would be nice if we all stood up for ourselves.
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Roxie43 May 26, 2012 at 9:26 am0 Likes
I am so very proud of you! You have single-handedly lifted my spirits …
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piglit May 26, 2012 at 9:13 am2 Likes
You are such a beautiful girl and have so much to offer in this life. You my dear will make a difference and follow your dreams of becoming a dr and you will be a very good and caring one as well Hugs Piglit
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LittleDreamer June 2, 2012 at 11:37 am0 Likes
Thank you. You guys both are so kind and supportive.
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LittleDreamer May 25, 2012 at 8:21 am3 Likes
I guess what I struggle with is how we are suppose to get people to understand. I mean, I feel like we can't really protest without people still thinking "well their crazy" or something like that, you know? I feel there is so much pressure on us to NOT make a mistake while we're trying to change things because if we do, well that just fuels their stigma.
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Roxie43 May 25, 2012 at 9:22 am2 Likes
You are very insightful! They can call us crazy and problematic but that's their ignorance and biases talking. Google all the famous human beings whom have made great contributions to our world who also lived with challenges.
Regardless, of how they try to label us we are intelligent, creative, hard workers, compassionate, skilled, articulate, empathetic and overall good human beings.
Although, I have been targeted for a long time, I am not the crazy one. The crazy one's are the one's that disobey law's put into place so what others and I have endured does not happen. Sadly, the maltreatment continues but we have to stand tall my dear even when we want to crawl under a rock.
I think that we all deserve kindness and equality even if we have to fight for it. No action equals permission to continue hurting innocent people.
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LittleDreamer May 25, 2012 at 11:45 am2 Likes
That is true. When I become a doctor I want to create a good hospital for kids with mental illnesses and specialize in ED's because mental health treatment is so well . . prison-like. Kids shouldn't have to feel like they did something wrong to end up the way they did and that's exactly what so many places are doing. They dont let you go outside, your constantly punished, and the food is terrible. I might only be 14 but I am determined to do that. I have already started thinking about the blueprint for my hospital.
You are right, we are completely normal. We just got to convince people of that.
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Roxie43 May 25, 2012 at 1:24 pm2 Likes
My dear Claire,
we are more normal than the one's that think we are not. We are in treatment but those that stigmatize others are not but should be.
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piglit June 2, 2012 at 8:06 pm0 Likes
A very brillaint 14 year old who has so much to offer to all of us
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Roxie43 May 30, 2012 at 8:49 am1 Like
Which fiction book did you read that states that 14 year olds can't be articulate, bright and cannot offer sound advice? Throw it away because our youth, especially well rounded youth, can teach adults a wealth of important and pertinent information about healthy living.
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piglit May 30, 2012 at 5:15 am1 Like
A very knowledgeable, caring 14 year old who is sharing and helping us and others through her own life's experiences, and I am sure will follow her dreams and become a wonderful doctor Piglit
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LittleDreamer May 25, 2012 at 6:45 pm0 Likes
Oh thank you! I am really glad I found this MayoClinic community because everyone here is so accepting and kind.
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Roxie43 May 26, 2012 at 9:07 am1 Like
Yes it will as long as those of us that need it to stop keep advocating for it!
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Roxie43 May 24, 2012 at 11:12 am1 Like
It sure won't with that attitude! Just because it's so prevalent in our society does not mean that we have to accept it.
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piglit May 24, 2012 at 3:22 pm1 Like
It wont with that attitude. If people would educate themselves and opely discuss things the stigma would eventually lift . The problem with society today is they just don't want to know, some problems are just put into the too hard basket and there always the wrong ones. Piglit
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piglit May 24, 2012 at 3:28 pm1 Like
I'm going to continue as i.m very passionate about this. Rememvber sometime ago I told you my story about Mark. Well there was a stigma attached to his illness. The dr's room was full of stares because he was unwell that's why I sat with him outside. I didn't want him to feel humiliated. I saw him again the other day and things have improved a little for him. He has had the care that he needed and know he is back at him home. The situation he went into removed the stigma attached and this is achievalbe. To be negative about things and say it Will never go away is so wrong positivity is what is required and an understanding to peoples needs Piglit
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Roxie43 May 25, 2012 at 8:35 pm0 Likes
I remember that beautiful deed Piglit. I'm sure that to this day he remembers you
Simply being approachable and accepting can give a person hope…
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piglit May 26, 2012 at 1:05 am0 Likes
I believe that too Rox and I hope to see Mark again. He has never left my thoughts and prayers x0
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Roxie43 May 26, 2012 at 8:35 am0 Likes
Life has a way of bringing us together just when we need a little kindness
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LittleDreamer May 24, 2012 at 7:21 pm1 Like
I agree. People really do need to educate themselves. I always have felt like eating disorders have a lot of stigma because people think it was my fault I have one. Also doctors just like numbers. They don't care about anything else. When I grow up, I'm actually scared to have kids because I don't want them to get an ED or depression or anxiety. I also think that we all need to be more positive. We have an illness and it is not our faults just like how cancer is not a cancer patient's fault. We need to be proud of who we are and show the world we are just normal people that are trying to live the best life we possibly can.
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Roxie43 May 26, 2012 at 5:28 pm1 Like
Some people simply need a heart. Some of the most educated are the one's mistreating others.
Nonetheless, education and increased awareness is important.
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Roxie43 May 27, 2012 at 9:40 am1 Like
In my situation everyone is educated and many have licenses. In addition to mental health awareness, there also needs to be increased and vigilant policies around the treatment and discrimination of individuals living with any illness.
And, bias, selective discrimination, defamation and hurtful behaviors should never be tolerated in our society, schools nor work.
We have come a long way but we still have so much more to do around eradicating stigma and it's effects.
Hugs,
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LizKat June 2, 2012 at 1:09 pm0 Likes
Hey Roxie
I think you have hit on something there. I have experience in the education curriculum for psychiatrists and it is sorely lacking in compasion training and many other issues.
this has me thinking maybe we should start some kind of program that goes to the med schools for a day to teach?
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Roxie43 June 2, 2012 at 3:54 pm0 Likes
Hi Lizzie,
Sounds great! I think all doctors and other provider's can benefit from an entire semester. How would we do this?
Hugs,
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LizKat June 2, 2012 at 4:24 pm0 Likes
Hi Roxie and little dreamer
There is no way we would get a whole semester, I'm not sure how long we could get. Maybe we can come up with a cirriculum look around and find some grants to apply to and take it from there? Maybe after we have it polished a little we could get NAMI or SAMSHA to sponsor us or at least let us hang on their shirt tails?
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Roxie43 June 2, 2012 at 4:30 pm0 Likes
Lizzie we have to shoot for the moon. There is so much knowledge amongst us that we can really have a positive impact.
However, I'm in…just let me know what to do.
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